Q
Hi, I'm trying to build a resource page for my blog, and I'm wondering if I could put yours on it? I love it to pieces, and hope others will as well =)
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Yes, go for it! Good luck with your blog; education is key to improving the experiences of trans* folks. :)

As a general note, I’m thinking of updating this blog regularly again. It would be really helpful if you could submit your ideas!


Q
Wow, i'm crying because almost none of these have happened for me. Yay dysphoria.
Anonymous
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Hi, anon. I know it doesn’t really help to hear this, but I am so sorry about your situation. You deserve to have these things happen for you, but the world is often cruel to us, and it hurts. You are in good company.

If you want to, you can send an ask off anon and I will be happy to talk to you privately, via my primary blog. Otherwise, if I were you, I’d find a friend to vent at and have a good old vent. The purpose of this subreddit is to provide a non-judgemental all-purpose supportive environment for trans* people experiencing difficulties. A quick google will turn up pages of advice on how to cope with dysphoria, so I won’t try to replicate any of that. You know best what helps you.

Above all, I’d like you to remember that if you can bear to look at this blog from a perspective that makes you feel good instead of bad, then it is every bit as much a space for you as it is for anyone. I understand how confronting your unfulfilled desires can be painful, but maybe one day you will find it helpful to look forward at the things you are going to achieve.

I think I will add a link to this post in the About page, which needs updating anyway. I’m sure you’re not the only person to have come here and been made to feel unhappy. Finally, a note to everybody - please do submit! If you have any comments, questions or suggestions, feel free to send an ask. :)


[Image description: a time-lapse photograph of a motorway at night, with vast streaks of red and white light. Text: Transition Positivity #63. Showing everyone it’s not just a phase.]
Submitted by askgrindinggears.

[Image description: a time-lapse photograph of a motorway at night, with vast streaks of red and white light. Text: Transition Positivity #63. Showing everyone it’s not just a phase.]

Submitted by askgrindinggears.


[Image description: a field of white tulips, with a lone red flower standing out in the middle. Text: Transition Positivity #62. Realizing you can still be yourself despite gender standards.]
Submitted by askgrindinggears.

[Image description: a field of white tulips, with a lone red flower standing out in the middle. Text: Transition Positivity #62. Realizing you can still be yourself despite gender standards.]

Submitted by askgrindinggears.


[Image description: a waist-down shot of three bridesmaids’ dresses: one baby blue, one pink and one purple, with bouquets and matching handbags. Text: Transition Positivity #61. Getting asked to be a bridesmaid.]
Submitted by anon.

[Image description: a waist-down shot of three bridesmaids’ dresses: one baby blue, one pink and one purple, with bouquets and matching handbags. Text: Transition Positivity #61. Getting asked to be a bridesmaid.]

Submitted by anon.


[Image description: a knees-down shot of three men standing close together on a beach. Two are wearing jeans and sandals; the other wears trousers and smart shoes. Text: Transition Positivity #60. Being accepted as one of the guys.]
An alternate version of this post for the girls.

[Image description: a knees-down shot of three men standing close together on a beach. Two are wearing jeans and sandals; the other wears trousers and smart shoes. Text: Transition Positivity #60. Being accepted as one of the guys.]

An alternate version of this post for the girls.


[Image description: silhouettes of two climbers. One, already at the summit of a steep incline, is reaching down to help the other. Text: Transition Positivity #59. Supporting others who are just starting out or still trying to.]

[Image description: silhouettes of two climbers. One, already at the summit of a steep incline, is reaching down to help the other. Text: Transition Positivity #59. Supporting others who are just starting out or still trying to.]


[Image description: a bedroom wall covered with posters, photographs and decorations. Someone is lying on the bed out of shot but for their bare legs and feet, sticking up and resting on the wall. Text: Transition Positivity #58. Decorating your room the way you always wanted it.]

[Image description: a bedroom wall covered with posters, photographs and decorations. Someone is lying on the bed out of shot but for their bare legs and feet, sticking up and resting on the wall. Text: Transition Positivity #58. Decorating your room the way you always wanted it.]


[Image description: a pencil discarded on a pad of paper covered in jagged pencil scribbles. Text: Transition Positivity #57. Forgetting about fears that never became reality.]

[Image description: a pencil discarded on a pad of paper covered in jagged pencil scribbles. Text: Transition Positivity #57. Forgetting about fears that never became reality.]


Q
Wow, this is so amazing. I seriously am grateful for this blog. Society (even within the queer community) portrays being trans* and transitioning as such a negative experience and seeing a blog that is just about the good things is so wonderful.
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Thank you so much; I’m glad to hear you like the blog. My attitude is that transition in any form is a difficult process with a wonderful and worthwhile outcome, namely the honest expression of yourself. Not every stumbling block between you and that outcome can be overcome, but every small step towards it is worth celebrating.

Society must recognise that it’s not variant gender identities that make trans* people unhappy, but being prevented from or punished for expressing them. Thank you again for the encouragement. :)

(As an aside: my emerging policy on answering asks of this flavour, which happily is the dominant flavour of asks received, is that they will only be answered publicly if I have any relevant ramblings to add. In order to keep the blog uncluttered, all others will be answered privately and, because this is a secondary blog, anonymously. All questions, comments and suggestions are welcome in the ask box. Thank you!)